He's Just Not That Into You

Have there ever been more liberating words uttered? One of the best Miranda story lines on Sex and the City was when she met Carrie and Berger for dinner and was stressing about some guy who hadn't called and asked Berger's advice. He said, "Maybe he's just not that into you." She loved it! She went around for the rest of the episode at ease and somewhat smug with her newfound information. Out on the streets of the city she couldn't help but overhear a conversation in which a girl was whining that a guy hadn't called, and Miranda went up to her and said, "Hey, maybe he's just not that into you." She walked off smiling, as if she'd passed on the secret to life, and the woman was confounded and blurted out, "Bitch!" Haha, sometimes the truth hurts.

I'd heard there was a little book about this a few years ago, and I'm not sure which came first, but either way - it's BRILLIANT! How much time can women save now, armed with this idea? Mixed signals? No phone calls? Looking over your shoulder at other girls when you're talking? (okay I can forgive this one because I can't help but notice if some tall drink of water enters the room) You have to consider how much more time you want to spend obsessing about someone who may not like you as much as you like him. To me, that's the ultimate anathema, and if it's the case, it's my goal to run as far away from that as possible. I love Garth's recommendation to Stacy on Wayne's World - "Get over it, go out with somebody else." In my experience, nothing helps getting over the last one like the next one. You can't think your way into right acting, but you can act your way into right thinking.

So freaking get over him already. He's over you (or was probably never even under you) and isn't wasting any brainwaves on it anymore (if he ever was), so move on. He's just not that into you! Maybe take solace in the fact that there's a number of dudes who are into you that you just aren't into. Poetic (though unfair) justice. Is unfair justice an oxymoron? Whatever. Time is the most precious thing we have, and to waste it on some loser is choosing not to truly live. So freaking get over him already.